“Are all the Filipinos poor?” The man sitting beside me in the bus turned to me and asked.
I looked at his face to check if he was joking. The man, also an Asian, was serious. He actually wanted to know. Although I found his question ignorant and offensive, I didn’t say so. Instead, I asked him back: “Are all citizens from your country poor?”
He didn’t think so. I held my tongue after that. I got off on the next stop still upset about the man’s question. That interaction happened twenty years ago. I’ve thought about the incident every now and then; thought about various snide ways of answering him. I always come back to the conclusion that perhaps I should have told him that not all Filipinos are poor, instead of feeling insulted and defensive.
I could have told him that the very rich and the very poor Filipinos usually stay back home. That the rich ones didn’t need to leave the country to find a better life, while the very poor aren’t educated enough and didn’t have the wherewithal to pay their way out. That the Filipinos he meets in Canada are what I would call the adventurous, the middle, the educated class. These include the nannies.
I’ve experienced other expressions of racism since then, some of which were ironically well-meaning. A long time ago, a friend told me that her car broke down in the middle of the Lions Gate Bridge. Said bridge only has three lanes, the middle of which changes direction every twenty minutes or so. It’s one of the two bridges that connect our town to the mainland. Traffic on this bridge notoriously reaches bottle-neck proportions during rush hours. My friend’s car was caught in one of these bottlenecks. Fortunately she was able to steer her car out of the bridge into a safe shoulder.
“Otherwise, I could have been lynched!” relieved, she recounted her experience to me. Then to make sure I understood her, she inquired, “By the way, do you know what ‘lynched’ means?”
Bad question. I was young and rather proud of my fluency in English. I remember giving her three synonyms for ‘lynched’ in one breath. After that, she never assumed I would misunderstand her ever again. We remain close friends.
I’d been in conversations where a Caucasian would speak to me very, very, slowly, word by word, so that I’d get his point. Whenever this happened, I rudely interrupt the speaker by finishing their sentence for them. That usually shuts them up.
I’ve actually lost my temper and shouted at people for being racist to me, at least twice. I’ve now regretted having done so. Forgive me. At the time, though, I found it very satisfying to watch the objects of my anger being rendered speechless with shock. I’m sure they’ve never seen a little brown person explode in their presence before .
Through the years, I’ve grown more tolerant of people’s false assumptions regarding Filipinos, or of other races, for that matter. I myself have been guilty of subscribing to ethnic stereotypes and although I don’t say them aloud, I definitely think them. I have a collection of racist jokes culled from my travels, which I enjoy reading and sharing with others. After all, as my friend says, there’s a little racist in everyone of us.
Which leads me to wonder --- what exactly, is the root of racism?
Firstly, I think it’s borne of ignorance. Not knowing much about a particular ethnic group, aside from what we’ve read in the papers and heard from our friends, we often draw our own skewed conclusions from such limited stores of information. We listen to stereotypes. We believe in blanket classifications of different races. Those guys are bad drivers; this group treat their women like furniture; those people are mostly involved in drug-dealing and other criminal activities. In reality, bad drivers, sexist men, drug dealers, and criminals can be found in every racial grouping.
Secondly, it’s the economy. Take the Philippines, for instance. Due to lack of economic opportunities at home, Filipinos leave the country in droves to seek their fortune elsewhere. Women work as nurses, hotel staff and domestics abroad. In Canada, the Live-in Caregiver Program has brought in thousands of our women to work as domestics and caregivers. A Canadian man admitted once that whenever he saw a gaggle of Filipino women in the bus on weekends, he used to assume they were nannies on a day-off.
And finally, it’s a by-product of colonization. The bitter irony in this type of racism is that a sense of superiority stays with certain members of the colonized long after the colonizers have left. I’ve felt it. I’ve fought against it in my own country. There’s another name for it: colonial mentality. It comes from being born in a place where one is expected to take pride in having some conqueror’s blood running in one’s veins, of being considered prettier than the indigenous because one has a fairer skin or a more western nose. Sad but true.
These days, I’ve stopped reacting violently to whiffs of racism. I try to live by example. Pessimists say there’s no cure for racism, but I’m thinking if I could help open one person’s mind every now and then, that’s good enough for me.
(Previously published at the Mill Woods Mosaic, Oct 15, 2010 issue)
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Friday, November 12, 2010
A Salt Spring Holiday
(previously published at the Mill Woods Mosaic, Oct 15th, 2010 issue)
For many immigrants, working usually takes precedence over taking a vacation. I speak from experience. I myself often feel guilty about going on holiday when there’s so much to do. You know, deadlines to meet, mortgage to pay, and children to support. Yet, everytime I came home from a vacation, I couldn’t help feeling inspired.
Take last week, for instance. I went to Salt Spring Island to attend the Apple Festival, only because it was a working holiday and two high-end hotels --- the Hastings House and the Harbour House Hotel --- kindly offered to host us for a week, courtesy of BC Tourism. Even so, I packed my bags with books, scripts and research notes. I didn’t want to find myself idling on such a trip.
Guess what, my work bag came back untouched but my head was buzzing with new ideas.
Salt Spring Island is located about halfway between Nanaimo and Victoria, the capital city of British Columbia. It’s part of an island group called the Gulf Islands. Salt Spring is mainly a farming community with over ten thousand residents, several thousand sheep and cattle, and a thriving deer population. Those in the know consider Salt Spring Island a special place, it being the residence of choice of numerous writers, artists, photographers, cheese makers, sculptors, ex-hippies and gentlemen farmers from all over Canada, many of whom came to visit the Island in the olden days and never left. Artist Robert Bateman and multi-awarded writer Brian Brett, among others, call it home.
There’s a palpable atmosphere of enlightenment and do-gooding around the place. Every other person seems to be involved in some worthwhile cause or another: to change the world, fight poverty or look after the environment. For example, there’s The Pie Ladies who bake and sell hundreds of pies during the apple festival, with proceeds going to the various charities they’re sponsoring. Then there’s the Coffee Ladies who raise money to buy coffee from the Nicaraguan coffee farmers at free trade rates to sell it on Salt Spring. Profits are sent back to Nicaragua to build schools and other facilities. Or those who raise money to send impoverished local kids to school.
But my friend and I are going after other quarries, one of whom is the Apple Man of Salt Spring himself, the organizer of the Apple Festival and dedicated organic apple farmer Harry Burton. Burton’s apple farm is overrun with weeds and vegetables growing among his 125 varieties of apple trees, which in turn share the 4-acre space with innumerable wasps, at least three garter snakes, two dogs, one cat and dozens of chickens. One chicken seemed to have lost its feathers around the neck, looking as if it narrowly escaped being plucked. He told me it was a rare breed called the Naked-Neck. I had to ask.
Harry Burton was proud to say that no insecticides or chemical fertilizers ever touched his farm. He relied on compost, seaweed and oyster shells to feed his plants. Burton, a former professor of Environmental Protection at Canadore College, North Bay, Ontario, developed a strong affinity with the outdoors during childhood. Farming is his “attempt to come back in line with Mother Nature”.
On his website appleluscious.com, Burton cited several advantages to growing organic food: it protects the quality of water, keeps chemicals off your plate, prevents soil erosion, restores biodiversity, and helps reduce global warming by saving energy. Besides, you don’t have to waste money on pesticides and herbicides.
Eating organic food is one of the most important contributions any of us can make to save the planet, according to Burton. Tons of pesticides, herbicides and fungicides are used in commercial farms every year. More than half of these are known to cause cancer, birth defects, genetic changes or serious irritation if ingested directly, but somehow people have allowed themselves to be convinced that food can be exposed to such poisons without absorbing them. When we invest in organic farming, he added, we get a huge dividend: good, healthy food.
Another organic farmer/writer we sought out was Michael Ableman, owner of Fox Glove Farms and the guru of sustainable agriculture, described by a local newspaper as the man “who can grow carrots on rocks.”
An organic farmer for over twenty years, Ableman has been running Foxglove Farms in Salt Spring Island for almost ten. He also established on this farm The Centre for Art, Ecology and Agriculture, to raise awareness and demonstrate the vital connections between farming, land stewardship, food and community well-being. He organizes workshops on how one can help conserve the environment through organic farming. Wow. Listening to Michael Ableman reminded me of a similar center I’ve been planning to build in my own village in the Philippines one day. Now I don’t have to re-invent the wheel. All I need to do is pick the brains of this man before getting started with my own project.
After I shared these thoughts with him, Ableman gave me a copy of From The Good Earth, one of his books. It’s all about growing organic food around the world. I just knew I have to talk to him again.
As you can see, going on holidays can be very beneficial, especially vacationing on a place like Salt Spring Island.
For many immigrants, working usually takes precedence over taking a vacation. I speak from experience. I myself often feel guilty about going on holiday when there’s so much to do. You know, deadlines to meet, mortgage to pay, and children to support. Yet, everytime I came home from a vacation, I couldn’t help feeling inspired.
Take last week, for instance. I went to Salt Spring Island to attend the Apple Festival, only because it was a working holiday and two high-end hotels --- the Hastings House and the Harbour House Hotel --- kindly offered to host us for a week, courtesy of BC Tourism. Even so, I packed my bags with books, scripts and research notes. I didn’t want to find myself idling on such a trip.
Guess what, my work bag came back untouched but my head was buzzing with new ideas.
Salt Spring Island is located about halfway between Nanaimo and Victoria, the capital city of British Columbia. It’s part of an island group called the Gulf Islands. Salt Spring is mainly a farming community with over ten thousand residents, several thousand sheep and cattle, and a thriving deer population. Those in the know consider Salt Spring Island a special place, it being the residence of choice of numerous writers, artists, photographers, cheese makers, sculptors, ex-hippies and gentlemen farmers from all over Canada, many of whom came to visit the Island in the olden days and never left. Artist Robert Bateman and multi-awarded writer Brian Brett, among others, call it home.
There’s a palpable atmosphere of enlightenment and do-gooding around the place. Every other person seems to be involved in some worthwhile cause or another: to change the world, fight poverty or look after the environment. For example, there’s The Pie Ladies who bake and sell hundreds of pies during the apple festival, with proceeds going to the various charities they’re sponsoring. Then there’s the Coffee Ladies who raise money to buy coffee from the Nicaraguan coffee farmers at free trade rates to sell it on Salt Spring. Profits are sent back to Nicaragua to build schools and other facilities. Or those who raise money to send impoverished local kids to school.
But my friend and I are going after other quarries, one of whom is the Apple Man of Salt Spring himself, the organizer of the Apple Festival and dedicated organic apple farmer Harry Burton. Burton’s apple farm is overrun with weeds and vegetables growing among his 125 varieties of apple trees, which in turn share the 4-acre space with innumerable wasps, at least three garter snakes, two dogs, one cat and dozens of chickens. One chicken seemed to have lost its feathers around the neck, looking as if it narrowly escaped being plucked. He told me it was a rare breed called the Naked-Neck. I had to ask.
Harry Burton was proud to say that no insecticides or chemical fertilizers ever touched his farm. He relied on compost, seaweed and oyster shells to feed his plants. Burton, a former professor of Environmental Protection at Canadore College, North Bay, Ontario, developed a strong affinity with the outdoors during childhood. Farming is his “attempt to come back in line with Mother Nature”.
On his website appleluscious.com, Burton cited several advantages to growing organic food: it protects the quality of water, keeps chemicals off your plate, prevents soil erosion, restores biodiversity, and helps reduce global warming by saving energy. Besides, you don’t have to waste money on pesticides and herbicides.
Eating organic food is one of the most important contributions any of us can make to save the planet, according to Burton. Tons of pesticides, herbicides and fungicides are used in commercial farms every year. More than half of these are known to cause cancer, birth defects, genetic changes or serious irritation if ingested directly, but somehow people have allowed themselves to be convinced that food can be exposed to such poisons without absorbing them. When we invest in organic farming, he added, we get a huge dividend: good, healthy food.
Another organic farmer/writer we sought out was Michael Ableman, owner of Fox Glove Farms and the guru of sustainable agriculture, described by a local newspaper as the man “who can grow carrots on rocks.”
An organic farmer for over twenty years, Ableman has been running Foxglove Farms in Salt Spring Island for almost ten. He also established on this farm The Centre for Art, Ecology and Agriculture, to raise awareness and demonstrate the vital connections between farming, land stewardship, food and community well-being. He organizes workshops on how one can help conserve the environment through organic farming. Wow. Listening to Michael Ableman reminded me of a similar center I’ve been planning to build in my own village in the Philippines one day. Now I don’t have to re-invent the wheel. All I need to do is pick the brains of this man before getting started with my own project.
After I shared these thoughts with him, Ableman gave me a copy of From The Good Earth, one of his books. It’s all about growing organic food around the world. I just knew I have to talk to him again.
As you can see, going on holidays can be very beneficial, especially vacationing on a place like Salt Spring Island.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
The Final Journey Home
When Ramon Cutillas was hit and killed by a pick-up truck while cycling along a street in Edmonton, the event spawned some problems for his community and for his family back in the Philippines.
Cutillas left his wife and four children in the Philippines some three years ago to work in Edmonton under Canada’s temporary workers’ program. He was jobless when he died, and didn’t have any savings nor unemployment insurance. The family couldn’t afford the expense to have his body shipped home, and were seeking financial help from the Filipino community in Edmonton.
According to Edmonton’s Serenity Funeral Homes, the process of getting a death certificate and obtaining documentation from the Philippine Consulate in Vancouver, plus preparing the body for shipping, to finally loading it on a plane to Manila usually cost between $8,000 and $9,000.
I have no doubt that the Filipino community will come through for Cutillas and his family, as they have always done in situations like this. They will not rest until enough money is raised and Cutillas’ remains is sent off to be reunited with his wife and kids back in the Philippines. These people understand a family’s emotional need for reunion and closure.
I can fully comprehend this need myself. Having been away from my three girls for many years, I would love to, at least, pass away in the Philippines, surrounded by them, and leave peacefully after saying my good-byes. Failing that, I’d try to make sure that my body is shipped home and buried in the family plot.
Wildly romantic, says a friend of mine, and totally unpractical. He added that in view of this, perhaps I should start saving. This friend doesn’t subscribe to the idea of spending thousands of dollars on shipping someone’s lifeless body to some country, when her survivors could otherwise make better use of that money.
Meanwhile in Vancouver, another close friend recently died of cancer. Everyone who knew this woman visited her in the hospital. When the time came for her to go, we were only grateful that her sufferings had finally come to an end. She was married but childless. Her husband had her remains cremated and ashes packed in a special container; he then obtained a special permit to carry the package in his backpack on board the plane for burial back in Iloilo, Philippines.
The total cost he paid for cremation and documentation: $775, GST included. Getting his wife interred back in the homeland: priceless.
This amazing disparity between the cost of shipping an embalmed body and a cremated one, however, raises some important questions in my mind. I’ve since asked myself: do I really want to spend $10,000 dollars to get my frozen dead self back to the Philippines to get buried, where I won’t be able to hug or talk to my kids anyway; or, send them an urn containing my ashes along with $9,000 in cold cash? Will it make any difference to me whether they mourn over my actual body or my powdered form? I don't think so. I will be dead by then and probably couldn’t care less. The children, however, may beg to differ.
But speaking of Ramon Cutillas' case, wouldn’t the same amount of money be more useful to his family, the same family who has now lost its breadwinner? Another friend, a European, thinks so. And despite myself, I agree with him. But it’s not for my friend nor me to decide, right? The Cutillas family had spoken and they wanted their husband and father’s body back. They wanted him there so they could say goodbye properly, mourn his loss adequately, and bury him at the place they could visit every now and then. And talk to him, even with the knowledge that he would never again answer them back. The future can take care of itself.
Let’s be practical for a moment, though: how much would $9,000 Cdn be in Philippine pesos, based on the current rate of exchange? That’s about P400,000, give or take a few pesos. Enough to buy a small house in a rural area or start a small retail business. But in times of death and bereavement, it’s not something people think about.
A very Filipino thing. Even a cultural thing. Definitely an immigrant thing. Because if you’re a Filipino working or living overseas, and most of the members of your family are still based in the Philippines, wouldn’t you want to go back home to them when you die, to know that they will feel some form of closure, rather than an eternal sense of loss because they’ll never see your final resting place?
Lately, I’ve been thinking of this more and more. The best thing to do, isn't it, is to get one's affairs in order before death comes along? It would save one's family a lot of anguish and even guilt, because then they wouldn’t have to choose practicality over personal wishes, because you’ve made the choice for them.
(Previously published at the Mill Woods Mosaic, May 15, 2010 issue)
Cutillas left his wife and four children in the Philippines some three years ago to work in Edmonton under Canada’s temporary workers’ program. He was jobless when he died, and didn’t have any savings nor unemployment insurance. The family couldn’t afford the expense to have his body shipped home, and were seeking financial help from the Filipino community in Edmonton.
According to Edmonton’s Serenity Funeral Homes, the process of getting a death certificate and obtaining documentation from the Philippine Consulate in Vancouver, plus preparing the body for shipping, to finally loading it on a plane to Manila usually cost between $8,000 and $9,000.
I have no doubt that the Filipino community will come through for Cutillas and his family, as they have always done in situations like this. They will not rest until enough money is raised and Cutillas’ remains is sent off to be reunited with his wife and kids back in the Philippines. These people understand a family’s emotional need for reunion and closure.
I can fully comprehend this need myself. Having been away from my three girls for many years, I would love to, at least, pass away in the Philippines, surrounded by them, and leave peacefully after saying my good-byes. Failing that, I’d try to make sure that my body is shipped home and buried in the family plot.
Wildly romantic, says a friend of mine, and totally unpractical. He added that in view of this, perhaps I should start saving. This friend doesn’t subscribe to the idea of spending thousands of dollars on shipping someone’s lifeless body to some country, when her survivors could otherwise make better use of that money.
Meanwhile in Vancouver, another close friend recently died of cancer. Everyone who knew this woman visited her in the hospital. When the time came for her to go, we were only grateful that her sufferings had finally come to an end. She was married but childless. Her husband had her remains cremated and ashes packed in a special container; he then obtained a special permit to carry the package in his backpack on board the plane for burial back in Iloilo, Philippines.
The total cost he paid for cremation and documentation: $775, GST included. Getting his wife interred back in the homeland: priceless.
This amazing disparity between the cost of shipping an embalmed body and a cremated one, however, raises some important questions in my mind. I’ve since asked myself: do I really want to spend $10,000 dollars to get my frozen dead self back to the Philippines to get buried, where I won’t be able to hug or talk to my kids anyway; or, send them an urn containing my ashes along with $9,000 in cold cash? Will it make any difference to me whether they mourn over my actual body or my powdered form? I don't think so. I will be dead by then and probably couldn’t care less. The children, however, may beg to differ.
But speaking of Ramon Cutillas' case, wouldn’t the same amount of money be more useful to his family, the same family who has now lost its breadwinner? Another friend, a European, thinks so. And despite myself, I agree with him. But it’s not for my friend nor me to decide, right? The Cutillas family had spoken and they wanted their husband and father’s body back. They wanted him there so they could say goodbye properly, mourn his loss adequately, and bury him at the place they could visit every now and then. And talk to him, even with the knowledge that he would never again answer them back. The future can take care of itself.
Let’s be practical for a moment, though: how much would $9,000 Cdn be in Philippine pesos, based on the current rate of exchange? That’s about P400,000, give or take a few pesos. Enough to buy a small house in a rural area or start a small retail business. But in times of death and bereavement, it’s not something people think about.
A very Filipino thing. Even a cultural thing. Definitely an immigrant thing. Because if you’re a Filipino working or living overseas, and most of the members of your family are still based in the Philippines, wouldn’t you want to go back home to them when you die, to know that they will feel some form of closure, rather than an eternal sense of loss because they’ll never see your final resting place?
Lately, I’ve been thinking of this more and more. The best thing to do, isn't it, is to get one's affairs in order before death comes along? It would save one's family a lot of anguish and even guilt, because then they wouldn’t have to choose practicality over personal wishes, because you’ve made the choice for them.
(Previously published at the Mill Woods Mosaic, May 15, 2010 issue)
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